To belong is a feeling that we yearn for by nature. Whether or not one chooses to admit this desire varies from person to person. Once the sense of belonging is achieved, there automatically are unspoken rules that must be followed. In addition to these unspoken rules, there are those rules that are spoken. The spoken rules are generally more important than the unspoken. This is evident through the fact that they are verbally stated rather than simply common knowledge. All of these rules are beneficial because they provide principles for the relationship. An example of how spoken rules equate to belonging could be found within many social groups. When you are new to a social group you will most likely be informed of only the spoken rules. Over time you will learn of the unspoken rules. In many instances there are just as many unspoken rules as there are spoken rules. As you learn of the unspoken rules, over time, you will begin to feel more a part of the group because you have learned something new, something that you would have not learned had you not been a part of this group.
